The complaint is that women are stigmatized and men are not. That's because almost all women have control over the number of sex partners and only a few men do.
Right off there can't be a double standard when considering that the vast majority of men are lucky to get an occasional hookup. Male orgasm isn't associated with oxytocin release?! This has been established for years. It's shameful that the author couldn't even google it. Oxytocin plays a couple of different essential roles in the process for men, so thanks for the link.
Ruth was just trying to make a female-biology-as-male-destiny type of argument. Happens all the time. Feminacentrism is another manifestation of Womenfirsters' power to define the agenda. It requires looking at all problems exclusively from women's perspective, or for the purpose of seeing how women are affected. It is based on the idea that women are more virtuous, more important than men.
Feminacentrism is blind to the problems men face. Never generalize from your own experience to the experience of most "women. That generalizing is neither good psychology nor good sociology. All it is, is good presumption. When the author says "most And her statements about the sex differences are not derived from personal experience I suppose because they have been confirmed by countless surveys, studies and experiments.
Sounds like Pollyanna wrote this paper, in the 's. Should have been broken down by age. If you want babies, pick up a guy in a drunken state hoping for marriage and you are say, 28, yes-perhaps a hook-up could be depressing. If you are 45, divorced, into your career, already been there-done that with children and your hook-up agrees with your premise-we are talking an entirely different theme. No alcohol need be involved, just two grown ups having a casual, safe and temporary friendship.
Thank you for this comment! I am right in that same situation and finding anything useful about sex at post divorce not by choice is far and apart.
I have 4 kids a full time job and no urge to deal with "relationship" stuff. Still I have physical needs, used to have daily sex with my husband for 22 years. I can relieve myself by masturbating, but in the long it is not very satisfying.
There is a definite difference in having a partner to share it with lol It felt strange at first, but if you have dealt with your loss and defined your needs, I say: I figure that conducting research with American college students as subjects might be easy, but I doubt that insights could be extended to the rest of the female population in the world. I am perfectly alright with the idea of casual sex that is planned, and where parties are considerate to each other.
Consent is established well before the first drink, so alcohol shouldn't be a consideration. It seems to me that research is biased in considering that marriage should be the purpose of sex; and that sex alone is never emotionally satisfying for a woman. By studying young populations, studies keep the premises 'immature', and keep perpetuating myths about what men and women want. Yes, women of ALL ages are quite capable of having NSA sex without regrets, and I'd argue that a lot more would do it in the absence of ominous social judgements.
Even those enlightened women failed eventually in there promiscuous practices. And as for the comments calling out social judgments, society also judges the obese. Is obesity a healthy practice to should sensationalized by an "enlightened" culture. Did you seriously just cite Sex and the City as if it were a documentary of some kind on female sexuality? I hate even having to type the words, but: You do realize those women are characters, right?
Their failures were contrived by a group of writers who probably harbor the same little grain of regressive conservative thinking that most people in this country do when it comes to the idea of women having sex. Who knows if it's improbable? Cross cultural studies would be useful to take a look at different forms of casual sex in places less puritanical than the U.
The "sexual revolution" wasn't so long ago, and women are still shamed and derided from all angles of society for wanting sex, for how they want sex, for how often or how little they want sex, and on and on and on. There are many more social reasons than biological ones for why women experience casual sex less I foresee that gap fading eventually, but not any faster for all the articles pulled out of thin air to make it a contentious issue whether women even like this or that kind of sex.
Paternalism at its finest to take a behavior many women partake in and then ask if they, despite doing it en masse, are even biologically capable of enjoying it. S never knew that. I have been following the debate of casual sex and women and searched for some genuine and useful advise and feedback.
What I run into is mostly American websites and the research that has been conducted is primarily on college aged young adults and the "hook up" culture. Women have been having casual sex in all times, but it has been condemned by society and therefore kept under the "blankets".
I am a mature woman of 45y, with 4 kids. I have been single for 1. I only had had 1 boyfriend before marrying. I have done my mourning, signed the divorce agreement, worked on my self spiritually in prayer, meditation and with my minister.
Emotionally I am stable and fulfilled, I have supportive friends, family and my children. Physically I am in great shape, healthy and fit. I work full time and my economy is in order. I am missing sex! Of course I can masturbate to relief my sexual needs and I do release tension by my "own hand". It is a poor substitute though to real sexual interaction with another human being.
Kissing, caressing and making out, feeling another body next to yours and having the oxytocin release: Modern research reveals that it happens to men too, not only women! I just put that oxytocin into good use cuddling my children, since mommy is on cloud nine after a night with some great "no strings attached" sex. I have no time or space in my life at this point to commit to a relationship. I am discreet, I am safe. Condom is a must.
I do not leave my home number or address. I am ready to take the risk of a brief emotional attachment, actually that is one of my requirements. If there is no feeling of "connection" emotionally, physically, spiritually I do not "hook up" with the guy.
The great thing is that men are also looking for that connection! The guys I have met are not looking for brainless banging. They want to discuss life, relationships, religion, spirituality, dreams, passions Both know it is a none commitment thing, we meet and we part. Hopefully both parties have had an expanding experience.
I feel blessed to have shared that moment with them and my life is richer and my pussy is tender from hours of great sex and multiple orgasms!!!! So girl, please do take responsibility to cater for your own needs. If you are honest with yourself and your partner and not trying to cover up alternative motives, go for it. There are men that are looking for a great experience with a mature, assertive sexy lady that they can connect with and share a night or two of pleasure, no strings attached This article repeats the same bullshit assumptions I keep seeing about women and casual sex.
I am 37 and single. I have mostly been single for my whole life, although I ended a 5-year relationship almost a year ago. I never have had a problem with it. It is a godsend! I have physical needs just like any man, and like filling them with a little variety, thank you very much. The issue is with expectations: If you both just want to have a little fun, what's the harm in that?
As long as both people realize what the deal is, it's great. I agree that many women can do it. And it is also possible that there are generational differences.
I have several female friends Europe, different countries, around yrs who went through an NSA sex phase for different reasons. Some were after long, abusive or unhappy relationships, some were left by their partner.
From my part, I only went into a relationship with the knowledge that the guy is not for me and that this will end rather sooner than later. I felt strongly attracted, and the guy did not lie at any stage, no false hopes for future together etc. Nevertheless, even when I entered, I knew it will be painful when it ends. And it was 3 months later. I am a bonding type of person, want to know my partner intimately and share my life with him, so no way will I do NSA sex.
For some, just the fact, that the guy was clearly not interested in them as a person, but more like a sex object, caused them to feel used regardless of their consent even if sex was physically satisfying for them.
I haven't read the above article regarding male oxytocin release during sex, but in another one earlier I did read that the testosterone if released in large amount will counteract the released oxytocin - and hence certain males will not bond via sex whereas women do not have this "defense".
Stereotypes are not the full picture, I agree. And for the same reason I also do not like some men writing about their need for casual sex as a generalised, all men's dream of thing. Non-functioning, boring, sexless, etc. PUA community using tools of a sociopathic narcissist's mindset to basically rape women some using covert hypnosis, young, gullible, undereducated, psychologically troubled etc. The difference I see between this and roofying someone, that with the drug it is more provable that abuse happened.
One of the terms in PUA lingo clearly describes this: Some PUA gurus after a while get more chilled and end up in monogamous relationships but by then they contributed to tremendous abuse directly and indirectly for female victims as well as their customers. Looking at Maslow's hierarchy, sex is a fundamental. Looking at health-focused research, sex is healthy and necessary. What do you do if you are alone? After one year with no one-on-one sex, I decided to try a casual arrangement.
From the first, it was wonderful. There are no undercurrents, and each of us can get out at any time, no questions asked. I am very happy. I am 54 and he is If women can be choosy about the height, physical appearance, and wealth of their casual sex partners, why shouldn't men be choosy about the past sexual conduct or "morals" of their potential long-term relationship partners?
The so-called "double standard" works both ways. The simple fact is, women these days have more options and more choices than men. That's why heterosexual bars and clubs have "ladies night" instead of "men's night".
The women, not the men, get to do the choosing. At closing time on ladies night, a group of average, slightly shy, somewhat short men are sitting alone at the bar while the women have left with all the big, tall, square jawed athletic looking guys with big feet- the same guys who went home with different women after the last ladies night. That's fine- we all should have the freedom to make our own choices, but we also have to face the consequences of our actions.
I would like to point out that young boys don't dream about growing up and marrying girls for who they are sexual partner number 25 any more than daddy wants his little girl to grow up to be a porn star.
And no amount of hypocritical, self-righteous "feminism"- short of a totalitarian "Brave New World"- is going to change that dynamic. While I don't approve of that group's behavior, I do think that what they are doing cannot in any way be compared to "rape" as you suggested. Lying maybe, but rape, no. What you are implying is that women are too stupid to make their own choices or to see through childish head games. As someone who believes in the mental equality even superiority of women, I find your suggestion appalling.
If a woman feels "used" afterwards, perhaps that's a sign that she should be more choosy, or even delay a sexual involvement for some time until she's sure about the man's intentions. I'ts sad that women are falling for that sort of thing, but they made a choice, so live and learn.
I think a lot of frustrated guys who lack self confidence, good looks, or stature are likely to try the "PUA" methodology, because they've felt rejected or hurt by women, and also they see the blatant hypocrisy in women's sexual behavior.
By hypocrisy, I mean the way women promote the idea of a finding a loving, committed partner i. The popularity of "PUA" tricks shouldn't be any more shocking than that of "penis enlargement" gimmicks which don't work; these industries prey upon gullible men with deep seated insecurities, fears which are often amplified by women's actual behavior. The first glaringly problematic comment the author made, is that "in my personal experience, most women cannot have casual sex without feeling hurt if the other person doesn't call back and has no intention of doing so.
It is obvious from that sentence, that the author is butt-hurt about a guy Feeling ashamed of herself, she decided to extrapolate her experience to mean "most women must feel this way since that is how I feel.
I do not understand how one author's personal butt-hurt made it into a renowned magazine about Psychology as a general guideline. I assure you, as a man, it is equally obnoxious to hook up with a girl you like and have her never show up again or call you back. It is a silly double standard to assume that women do not do this to men as well, to assume women do not sport-fuck you for a notch on their belt, because many of them will and you will not know about it until afterwards.
I also take issue with the whole "if she has to drink to have sex, maybe she shouldn't be having sex. People drink to lower inhibitions and get laid. It just happens that way. Sex is fun when it's thrilling and has that "is this going to happen?
A drunk man's inhibitions are not lowered any less than a drunk woman's, and for this reason I say I believe hooking up even when there is some form of attachment can be quite possible and, not only that, but very fulfilling.
I am a young single mother and I have found that most of my relationships since my daughter was born, have been very short lived and meaningless. There is one person who has become both, a friend, and a lover. He happens to be my daughter's father. We spend time as a family, but want nothing to do with a serious relationship between the two of us.
We are simply two people who have a child together that occasionally share in a physically gratifying arrangement. If either one of is were to want to settle, we are more than welcome to walk away, and if not, we are both perfectly fine in our situation.
We can also feel free to hook up with other people if we so choose. It takes away the awkwardness of having to share ourselves with new people if we didn't want to, plus we both know what each other likes and it is just easy and fun.
The main problem with this article and many similar articles is the basic misinterpretation of oxytocin release. Yes, oxytocin is released during orgasm and is a factor for women becoming attached to men. However, that attachment is a sexual attachment NOT an emotional attachment. Having an orgasm, will make a woman want to have sex with that man again but it won't cause her to suddenly fall in love with him, want a committed relationship with him if she wasn't already , or become emotionally attached.
The main problem is that there's still an underlying assumption that women become emotionally attached from sex. As a result, what boys and girls are taught about sexual behavior and research on how men and women react to sex will almost always be interpreted from a biased viewpoint. An analogy would be if a crime was committed and the police automatically assumed from the start one man we'll call him Pete was the perp. This would result in the police solely focusing on Pete, interpreting the evidence as proof of Pete's guilt ie the perp was a man I am 32 and female and have had 4 long term relationships 3 to 5 years though I really don't know why.
I have zero desire to get married or have kids, never have. So does California Cornflakes. H stands for heroin. By the time you read this list, it may already be outdated. One Google search will reveal a litany of Craigslist horror stories. But sometimes you can find good deals on slightly used furniture. How do you stay safe on Craigslist? Preferably a big strong buddy, who looks like they could fend off trouble. Check them out online before you meet. It may reveal all kinds of details about them.
If the post is well-written, includes photographs, a name, and a number, you might be okay. If any words, such as parTy, are spelled strangely, abort.
Is Craigslist really brimming with psychopaths and drug dealers? Like any neck of the woods, it has its fair share of creeps and weirdos.
Never use Craigslist for any type of socializing; the freak ratio increases dramatically when you exit the mainstream sections.
Craigslist can be a great resource, but make sure to use it wisely and exercise caution and common sense. She enjoys pizza, surfing and the beach life. I see all these numbers: I know , but on personals they say and and more.
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Pimps have girls professionally photographed and suitably airbrushed to make them look ethereal, then sell them online. Typically, the girl will be available and on call for five days and nights per week. After all sex is a trillion-dollar business.
It pays men to keep men thinking on these terms. A madam who is still on the London scene today sends her girls to Dubai for weekends with a Prince. The best type are the ones with minimal sex or none at all, which is the general consensus of the girls, whereby they are put on pedestals and taken shopping.
Another truth that I learnt from experience is that most of the men are married. There are arguments to say that escorting is easy money, and maybe to some it is. I left home very young, having had a troubling relationship with my mother, and was quite vulnerable. I soon ended up in the glamour industry , and at the mercy of much older men, modelling and dancing — but sometimes also escorting.
After my time escorting, something inside died. The worst thing I heard someone say to me, taken from a spiritual doctrine, was that every person who ever fucks you leaves their essence with you.
Vikki Dark is a British writer and academic whose oeuvre spans erotica, biography and transgressive fiction.
Her latest book, about an adult film star, focuses on contemporary feminism relevant to cyber culture and sex. Men are hungry beasts when it comes to sex. They want all the satisfaction for themselves. It is a bit embarrassing. I simply love these call girls and escorts.
I mean, being married with kids is good, but as a man I need my urges satisfied as well, which my wife of course can never do. But yes, the sex is just awesome. I might regret it afterwards but thinking about one touch, one blowjob and one damn strip tease— that is all it takes for me to lose control and cheat. When I was in my early twenties I visited a brothel in Germany. I was young, the women were alluring, and the idea of legal prostitution was new and exciting to me then.
I paid 70 marks for an experience that lasted less than 10 minutes. I found it empty and rather hollow. That was my one and only time. So why do other men pay for sex time and again? I can only speak for myself. Living in a society that bases its morality within a Christian-Judeo framework there is the temptation to judge the prostitute and her John.
I resist doing that because I resist blanket generalizations. I know every man has his story just as every woman has hers. Thank You for your courage in writing about this. No amount of money or glamorization can compensate for being treated like an empty soulless object. There is nothing shameful about being an escort. Thank you for sharing your story Vikki. What is interesting now is that more women are being open about booking male escorts.
It seems it may be more socially acceptable for women to pay for sex. I connected to them for a moment. How escorts feel about their clients is determined by a the quality of clientelle and b their own value and self worth, or in both instances potentially the lack of it.
So may I ask and this question is for Vikki as well how do escorts feel in general about their clients? For all the smiles and gracious behavior, do escorts overall harbor some hidden resentment against their clients? The implication is that a man who pays for sex automatically earns the escorts contempt.
Would this be correct or not? I felt increasingly angered by some who I saw more than once. I resented knowing them, noticing how they automatically found it easy to use a woman; also that they had been conditioned to think that that is just the way things are: I was a functioning drunk when I conducted myself as an escort.
Not a well girl back then. And so Riot Grrrl was born. But the music was only a means to an end: Down with Backlash, up yet again with Sex and the Single Girl. A thoroughly unscientific survey of my woman card-carrying friends suggests that they find the term acceptable—if not always accurate—when they apply it to themselves, but intolerable coming from a man. In her twenties, C. So I think that probably also had something to do with the transition: Girl attunes us to what might be gained and lost in the transformation, and raises a possibility of reversion.
As Gloria Steinem likes to remind us, women lose power as they age. The persistence of girlhood can be a battle cry. Emphasis on female; we love to love the dysfunctional boys of Girls. In fairness, the girls are dysfunctional narcissists whose efforts to impersonate grown-up women—via romantic commitment, child nurturing, professional advancement—inevitably blow up, occasionally with mass casualties. I love them all. I love Hannah the most. Shockingly, audiences prefer their charming schlubs to look like Seth Rogen; schlubby women are another story.
Especially schlubby women who have lots of sex and show no inclination to take care of anyone but themselves. The girl books crowding the nonfiction shelf are written by and about women who insist on sticking to that wide path, women who refuse to Jo March themselves into a supporting role in their own life: The word attaches itself with special frequency to women in music and the sciences—not as diminishment of their achievement, but as its trophy.
Their stories speak of subverting gender expectations, breaking barriers, and—at least on the page—prioritizing work and art over the role of domestic caretaker. But the band played on. Gordon writes about her difficulties expressing her true self, relieved only by art: Art, and the practice of making art, was the only space that was mine alone. The girl on the train is a mess. One drowning in the loss of her husband and her inability to bear a child. One steadfastly ignoring the loss of her child, destroying her marriage in the process.
And one performing, perfectly and to the exclusion of personal desire, the duties of wife and mother—doomed to pay a steep price. This is a novel about the corrosive effects of domesticity, but also about the intolerable void left in its wake. Rachel is the flip side of freedom, a wife erased by marriage. Like the girls of Girls, she is unmoored, but not by choice. Because when girls go wild, they show their tits to people. When women go wild, they kill men, and drown their kids in a tub.
Despite being domestic thrillers about marriage and motherhood, the girl books tend not to actually depict domestic life—instead, they track various escapes from it. These are women in flight or exile from the trappings of womanhood.
The Luckiest Girl Alive is desperate to mold herself into a perfect wife, but victory requires a flight from conjugal expectations. All of the girls on the train are imagining themselves into marriage or out of it; for them, girlhood functions as hell and salvation, pathology and refuge, wound and weapon, all at once.
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